Let’s talk about Attachment in Relationships, specifically patterns of Insecure Attachment. We will cover an introduction to history and also the categorization of Styles. We will consider how Insecure Attachment points towards common trauma symptoms of Hyper-Arousal, Intrusion, and Constriction.

Interchangeable terminology for Attachment Injuries, Attachment Wounds, and Attachment Trauma will highlight the range and subjective continuum of behaviours that show up in our relationships. We will reflect on how to create quality bonds, the universality of emotional unavailability, and the dependency paradox.

This lecture is for anyone who values self-reflection when it comes to creating quality relationships.

Research tells us that our autonomic nervous system scans our body four times per second asking “am I safe?, am I safe? am I safe? am I safe?”

If the answer is ‘yes’, we stay neurobiologically in our prefrontal cortex, the most mature part of our brain, our wise adult self, the part of us that is here and now that can observe, reason and decide. However, if the answer is ‘no, I don’t feel safe’, more primitive parts of our neurology get activated. The wise adult self shuts down and the more primitive reactive automatic parts of our nervous system take over. We find ourselves, despite our best intentions, repeating the same dysfunctional moves in relationships that we first learned in our childhood. The sense of the whole of US, disappears and we move into a you and me, win or lose adversarial contest.

The spiritual teacher, Krishnamurti, once said “True liberation is freedom from our own automatic responses.” This workshop teaches the skill of ‘relational mindfulness’, the cultivation of our wise adult selves even in heated moments. Trauma pulls us into immature behaviors in our relationships and learning mature relational skills has the power to heal our deepest injuries.

Have you ever looked around and wondered, ‘Why has everyone found love except me?’ you’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives – they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including who to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. 

Drawing from years of research, behavioural scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behaviour. In this live interview session, Logan will show you how.

Incorporating insights from behavioural science, original research, and real-life stories, you’ll learn: 

— What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) 

— What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t) 

— ⁠How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) 

— ⁠How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) 

— How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) 

— ⁠Why ‘the spark’ is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway) 

And more…

Logan’s data-driven, step-by-step approach has the potential to help you find, build and keep a relationship, in which both partners thrive.